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Getting the basics right before your big day
We’ve talked before about how your bridal appointment will go better if you’re prepared, so today we’re stripping it down to the basics: undergarments.
Wrinkles, panty lines, and bra straps can make it hard to focus on the gorgeous gown you’re wearing. In fact, the wrong undergarments can completely alter the appearance of a dress. Everything will go (and look) better with the right foundational pieces.
The key to choosing the right undergarment lies in finding the balance between too little forethought and too much. So, if you’re worried about what undergarments to wear wedding dress shopping, we’ve got you covered. Here are some do’s and don’ts to help you prepare for your big shopping trip.
Do: Have your bra measurements taken.
Yes, we know that having someone loop you with a measuring tape in a tiny changing stall isn’t everyone’s favorite experience. However, avoiding it for years means that a lot of us are wearing the wrong bra sizes. Have your measurements taken again before your bridal appointment, especially if you’ve been losing weight ahead of the wedding.
Your dress can’t lay properly unless your undergarments fit like a glove. When your bra is too big or too small, the bust of a gown may fit quite differently than it ought, affecting your perception of the dress. The right bra will help you find the right gown.
Do: Bring a strapless bra.
Some dresses are so structured that you can skip the bra altogether, especially if you are a smaller cup size. However, this won’t work for all of us. For those who need something more, a high-quality strapless bra is a must. Think of it as part of the cost of your wedding gown.
Before your bridal appointment, visit a specialty lingerie store and find a strapless bra that gives you the support and coverage you need. It can help to call ahead and make an appointment at the store, letting them know you are looking for a bra to go under your wedding gown. They attendants may have specific recommendations.
Do: Wear the right panties.
When you go to your bridal appointment, you’ll have a bridal consultant helping you in and out of your various dresses. Because of this, you want to wear a style of panty that won’t leave you feeling embarrassed or mortified in front of your stylist.
At the same time, you want to wear something that won’t leave any visible panty lines underneath a slinky sheath dress, or show through the fabric of your dreamy romantic lace gown. Fortunately, there are so many choices today for seamless panties, it’s not hard to find one that works. Try on a few different no-show styles and wear the undergarment you like best to the bridal appointment.
Do: Consider wearing shaping briefs.
Want some of shapewear’s sculpting power but don’t feel like wearing the full bodysuit? A high-waisted shaping brief is a good choice. It’s less restrictive and it’s relatively easy to manage on your own.
Bring this piece along to your appointment, so that you can wear it under any form-fitting or clinging dresses. Satin and silk will fall smoothly over it, giving you that bridal look. You can also remove it, if you decide to try a gown with an open back.
Do: Think about wearing a slip.
While you are at your bridal appointment, we may recommend a special kind of slip for your wedding gown. A slip supports your gown from the inside out, lifting the skirts and enhancing the shape.
Although you will not need to bring a slip to your appointment, you may purchase one at the same time as you select your gown. Of course, not every gown needs a slip. If you’re exchanging vows on a beach, you may choose a more low key look altogether.
Don’t: Choose a bodysuit before you’ve chosen your dress style.
A bodysuit provides full body shaping and sculpting. Whatever your dress-size, a bodysuit gives you a sleeker silhouette and a little extra security. It also can provide some extra support in the bust, eliminating the need for a special bra.
Although this is a staple undergarment, it isn’t one to wear to your bridal appointment. These shaping garments come in a variety of styles and can be worn under gowns with plunging backs or deep sweetheart necklines. Choose one only after you know your gown style.
Don’t: Come wearing a corset.
A corset has all the shaping power of a bodysuit, with some added romance. Usually a corset uses boning along with shaping spandex for maximum control and structure. They also often have lace or other decorative details, so that you look just as pretty in your shapewear as you do in your dress.
A corset can be a good substitute for a strapless or longline bra, but, because it covers your entire torso, you won’t be able to wear it under a backless gown. That’s also why this isn’t something to wear to your bridal appointment – it may limit the variety of gowns you can try on that day.
So, what undergarments should you wear gown shopping?
Unless you know exactly the style of gown you want to buy, skip the corset or shaping bodysuit. A nude strapless bra (in the correct size) and a no-show pair of panties is the safest choice. You may purchase other undergarments later, after you’ve found your perfect dress.
If you just don’t feel confident trying on certain styles without shapewear, you can bring some along to your appointment. That way you have the option of slipping into it under a form-fitting satin gown.
Don’t forget that if you have any more questions about what to wear or bring to your bridal appointment you can reach out to one of our expert stylists. We’re here to answer all your questions so that you have the best possible experience on your special day.
Avoiding common mistakes that brides make before the big day
As magical as your wedding day is, it’s also a big job. Unless you’re a professional wedding planner, it’s unlikely you’ve thrown an event of this size before. There’s lots of resources out there for brides-to-be, but are you prepared to avoid these common pitfalls? Here are eight mistakes brides make when planning a wedding—and how you can avoid them.
Mistake 1: Buying before Budgeting
It’s great you found your perfect venue, but will you have enough money left for your favorite band? You’ve been dreaming about this day for a long time, but now that it’s finally here you may have to trim your Pinterest board a bit. Set a budget before booking or buying anything.
Handling wedding finances can put a lot of stress on an engaged couple. Instead of treating your budget (or partner) like a dream-killer, sit down and focus on what brings you the most joy when you imagine your wedding day. Is it having a huge crowd, driving away in a vintage car, or wearing the perfect gown? Prioritize what makes you happy and cut the rest.
Mistake 2: Choosing a dress before choosing a venue
You bought the ballgown of your dreams. Nothing could be a better match—except your fiancée of course. Then you realize you want to say your vows on the beach by your reception venue. Suddenly you realize your watered silk train will be dragging in wet sand.
Before setting an appointment at a bridal salon, make some key decisions about your big day. Do you want to dance the night away in a beautifully decorated barn, or a formal ballroom? Your choice of venue can have a big impact on the kind of wedding gown you want to wear.
Mistake 3: The wedding diet
Sure, your wedding is a big day. You’re spending a fortune on professional photography, and you want to look amazing. But, beware. Too many brides plan to lose unrealistic amounts of weight before their wedding, which can be unhealthy and dangerous.
Even if you are committed to shedding some pounds before the wedding, don’t buy your wedding gown in your ‘goal’ size. Wedding gowns can usually be taken in if you do lose weight, but a gown that’s too small may not be alterable. So give yourself some breathing room when you order. A size up is always better than a size down.
Mistake 4: Not sending thank you notes
Really, nobody needs Miss Manners to tell them that this one is a mistake. The surprising thing is how often brides forget to send thank you notes anyway. The whirlwind of parties and showers preceding the wedding bring so many gifts. It’s easy to forget to send letters of thanks to all your guests.
Establish some sort of system, so that you can remember what came from who, and when. You don’t want to thank your aunt for the salad servers that came from your grandma. Ideally, someone will take notes as you open your presents at your showers. Then consolidate the information in a planner for easy reference.
Mistake 5: Cutting costs by hiring a budget tailor
Your wedding gown is a huge investment—emotionally and financially. Make sure that whoever you hire to alter it knows what they are doing. Otherwise you may be left brokenhearted by a botched job that can’t be fixed.
If your bridal salon doesn’t handle alterations in-house, do a little research before taking your dress anywhere for alterations. You can check popular sites like the Knot, ask fellow brides, and look at online reviews. Whoever you end up picking should have years of experience altering formal gowns. They should also be able to help you select the right bustle for your dress.
Mistake 6: Registering too quickly
When you’re combining two households it’s easy to accumulate a lot of doubles. Before you register, take some time to evaluate what you have. You might be surprised to learn that your fiancée already owns a perfectly serviceable blender or set of highball glasses.
Once you’ve got a clear idea of what the two of you need for your new home, take your time building a registry together. Ideally you will fill your list with quality items that will last for years. The first big showers won’t happen until shortly before the wedding, so there’s no need to rush.
Mistake 7: Letting your relatives run the show
Yes, your family may be contributing the wedding financially, and they certainly are excited. That doesn’t mean they get to tell the two of you what to do on your big day. The wedding is a great time for you and your fiancée to establish yourselves as an adult couple.
Be sensitive to your families’ needs, but put each other first. If you know your significant other is going to hate something, don’t let your family pressure you into it. Patterns of behavior that you develop now will stay with you for years, and it’s time to set some healthy boundaries. You might benefit from seeing a qualified couple’s counselor, who can help you navigate these emotionally turbulent waters.
Mistake 8: Getting hung up on the details
Repeat this to yourself now: something will go wrong. It doesn’t matter how much you pay or how much you plan; wedding days usually contain a few unwanted surprises. Still, even if your brother is partying a little too hard, or you get a drop of red wine on your gown, remember that this is still the day that you’re marrying the love of your life.
Whatever goes wrong, your wedding day marks a huge step forward for you and your partner. It’s not the details that make the day so magical. It’s the look in your love’s eyes as you walk down that aisle. Don’t get hung up on the details and distracted from what’s really important.